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Update for Shels and Anon

07 Mar

Okay, okay, so apparently people think I’m lost and gone forever, abandoning the blog. Perhaps… Reality is just that my life is racing at warp speed and I can barely find time to breathe right now. So here’s the update:

Health

Except for a flareup in January, my pain is being managed quite well with the Zonegran and Cymbalta. I’m trying to sleep, eat well, take my vitamins and drink plenty of water.

Love

Purchased my wedding dress. Long, princess-like, with rhinestone pickups and a beautiful fitted bodice. Made me cry.

Purchased the Save the Dates in December. They are still sitting in the dining room waiting for me to have time to hand address them… Yeah. My love is sweet, considerate, amazing and Pumpkinhead adores him. I’m happy. And I think happy people blog less.

Work

My boss just got canned. Yee-haw! Not sure if this will work out well or end up being a bad thing but more guidance and direction will be welcomed. Micro-managing not so much. We will see how it shakes out… Lots of exciting projects right now but my “promotion” and new exempt status have lead to me working 10-12-hour days routinely. I’m pretty beat but enjoying the challenges. We’ll see how it goes…

Pumpkinhead

I took the whole week of Spring Break off only to find out that Pumpkinhead would prefer to spend that time on the truck with Chapin. Fine! Seriously, though, it is fine.

Pumpkinhead is doing amazingly well in school. His math scores are amazing, which surprises me because he is also fantastic at reading and typically people seem to only do well at one or the other. Or at least I did… Math just kills me. But he is thriving, little smartypants. The only downside is that he loves books so much that he will sneak books into bed and stay up reading. I’m getting t the point where I’m threatening to remove his bookshelves from his room. I hate that!! But he needs sleep, too. We’ve started giving him a 30-minute warning for bed and allowing him to read, then telling him “lights out.” Hopefully he will start to obey and not get lost in book world. I understand — did it myself — but I do need to be the mama.

Family

Parents are happy in Dubai. They are returning in May for my brother’s wedding and have decided to take back the car they gave us. Then they are kicking out the people who are living there for free, have told my brother and future SIL that they cannot, in fact, move in, and are going to leave it empty until my wedding and then look into renting it out. We’ll see how that goes. Love the family drama!

That’s all for now.

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First Kiss, Worst Kiss, Last Kiss, Best Kiss

13 Feb

Canadian Bald Guy had a fun idea for people this Valentine’s Day. Share your First Kiss, Worst Kiss, Last Kiss, Best Kiss.

First Kiss – well my *first* kiss or, as we called it in NZ, “pash”, was with my childhood friends, Nancy and Odessa. Lots of teeth and awkard tongue. My first boy/girl kiss was with a boy named DJ during bible camp when I was 15 (yes, Steph, that DJ). The world shifted on its axis and I could barely breathe. It was pretty amazing.

Worst Kiss – I hate kisses where people are ramming their tongues down my throat. I once had this guy from the Dominican Republic who would steal kisses in the walk-in where we worked and he was a very forceful, painful kisser when on the mouth. (Sexy/hot elsewhere…)

Last Kiss – Mr V kissed me in the bathroom on his way out of the bedroom. He’s in the doghouse so it was a good one.

Best Kiss – Ahh, Mr. V. I can tell you to the minute. It was our fourth date. We had gone to a great buffet and then to a movie and were strolling hand in hand back to our cars. The parking garage elevator doors opened and, as the doors shut, he suddenly pushed me up against the wall and kissed me until my toes curled. It was so unexpected and, well, hot, that my mind just went “bzzzzz” and I thought I would pass out. The night actually went down from there, sigh, but it was a fantastic kiss!!

Thanks for the walk down memory lane, CBG. Kisses rock!

Readers, what was your First Kiss, Worst Kiss, Last Kiss, Best Kiss?

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Top 10 Reasons I Adore Mr. V

13 Feb

Mr. V(alentine) is sitting next to me on the couch rubbing my feet. Sitting here this Valentine’s weekend, happy, blessed, in love, I thought I’d expound on the reasons why he rocks.

10) He has natural parenting instincts – even though he has never had his own children, he has taken to Pumpkinhead like a duck to water and I have never, ever felt like he’s making bad choices in his parenting decisions. He helps him with home work, plays Wii, disciplines appropriately, teaches him new things, helps him to take responsibility for his actions and all without me ever having expressed a need for these things. Awesome!

9) When we fight, he listens. Sure, like every couple we have our disagreements from time-to-time. But not once have we left a disagreement still fighting. And unlike past relationships, he does not make me feel scared, intimidated or threatened. He calls me on my BS and when I call him on his, he owns it. We actually have healthy dialogues about how to solve our problems… together.

8 ) He’s a big softy. His “allergies” kick in at sappy movies, when Pumpkinhead says, “I love you, Papa {Mr. V}”, and at other cute times.

7) He’s a *man*. He loves to grill, work with his tech toys and build stuff. I love that!! He’s building me a window seat so I can cuddle up and read and he’s always thinking of great new things for the house. Reminds me of my Dad in that way.

6) He is an amazing negotiator. Mr. V owns his own graphic design business, teaches college and does a lot of real estate transactions. He rocks eBay and Craigslist finding barter deals and has improved the house tenfold since I moved in solely due to his ability to negotiate for the best possible deal and trade web design work.

5) He takes care of me. After a hard week at work, he presumes I would want to sleep in. I don’t have to mention it, ask for it, etc. He just gets up and takes care of Pumpkinhead, allowing me to get my rest.

4) He is considerate and a true partner. When he’s at the store, he calls to see if he can pick me up anything. If I ask him to drop off my drycleaning, he does it. He asks me to do things and isn’t afraid to take on an equal share. He anticipates my needs and fills them.

3) He makes me laugh. I really enjoy Mr. V’s company. We’ll be watching a show and both be thinking the same thing. He sends me funny things and his sense of humor is really similar to mine.

2) He makes me melt. He’s strong, tall, has beautiful eyes and a great smile. He holds my hand and cuddles me close when I need comfort. When people bring up his name, the grin spreads across my face and when he calls me, I’m thoroughly distracted.

1) He’s romantic. First e-mail to me said I might just be the neatest person he’d ever have the chance to meet. Flower/candy arrangement sent to me the day before he proposed said, “Happy Halloween to the sweetest piece of eye candy.” His proposal was creative and beautiful and the man wants to take dance lessons so he can dance with me on our wedding day. Swoon!!!

Bottom line – head over heels. Cannot wait until 10/10/10 to start our life together!

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Uncomplicated

30 Jan

And men think women are complicated. Cee has the real story on what women want.

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180 Degrees

30 Jan

Mr. V just left the house to buy wood so he can build me a window seat where I can read. Swoon. And when he goes out, he calls to ask if he can pick something up from the store for us. And tomorrow, while I’m out wedding dress shopping, he’s taking Pumpkinhead and a friend out for lunch and a movie as a reward for Pumpkinhead’s AWESOME report card (Mr. V’s idea!). Obviously no relationship is perfect but, wow, looking back at this time last year and at earlier years’ diary/blog entries about Chapin and the way he treated me (and, yes, the way I let myself be treated), I am so thankful for my life right now and the man who is in it.

“When two people are in a relationship with both of them with their feet in, you share the common ground of each other and have each others best interests at heart. You bring out the best in each other, and are yourselves, warts and all, and you grow together rather than grow apart.” ~ Baggage Reclaim

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Satisfied

25 Jan

One of my law school classmates who took time off before I left to have a baby has recently returned. Quite frankly I was surprised. Not sure why. The Washington Post today reported that college enrollment is through the roof. My former classmates are telling me that jobs are scare and competition is worse than ever.

As for me, while I may continue to be stressed over work, I still don’t regret missing the stress of law school. My career may be insane but I have professional development opportunities ahead, potential for moves elsewhere (you never know…) and a lot of interesting challenges on the horizon. Personally, I am so in love and happy. Pumpkinhead and I are both truly blessed with a most wonderful man.

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Cuteness

09 Oct

And now, to balance my fears post, a post about all the cute.

Pumpkinhead has discovered Skype. Ths is awesome because it means he can chat with Mimi and Granddad in the Middle East. But not so awesome because he gets up at, like, 5 a.m. and has rowdy online conversations. LOL. He has also discovered emoticons. Apparently he sent Mimi the following IM at 6 a.m. “Time for {beer emoticon}?” Oh yes, that’s my boy. She wrote back, “Nope, time for {hot chocolate emoticon}”.

He’s also been sending me e-mails on Gmail. Yesterday’s was “Mommy gets a gold star!” Awww…

He and Mr. V are so cute. They have been recording “boy shows” and I find them watching them together when I get home from work. Scooby Doo, Zumangi, etc. Mr. V is big into homework time and he and Pumpkinhead have been working every day on math and spelling. I’m so impressed with how well Mr. V has integrated us into his household and how he has taken on the “Dad” role so smoothly. He mutes the TV and puts on his authoritative voice, calling up to Pumpkinhead to come down and give me a kiss before bed. He has also apparently made it his mission in life to get Pumpkinhead to brush for two minutes.

Oh yes, I should pay attention to what the man does…

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Bliss

13 Sep

Have I mentioned that I love Mr. V? Totally, completely. I fell for him the moment we met when he walked into the restaurant on our first date, came up to the bar where I was sitting, and kissed me until my toes curled. That’s when I knew.

Since then it’s only gotten better. He picked me (bonus!) and told me I “might be the neatest person I ever have the chance to meet.” Awww. For the past few weeks he’s watched Pumpkinhead most every evening while I’ve worked an insane amount of OT. When I come home, he has a fresh bottle of wine waiting for me or some other sweet thing. He’s called and left me a voicemail singing a cute love song or Facebooked about how great I am. Yep, swoon!

He’s romantic, funny, stubborn and generally amazing. He keeps me smiling, laughing and happy. Best of all, he complements my sensual side perfectly. He’s up for most anything and has taken me to places I never thought I would go.

No narcissism, no anger, no violence, no jealousy. Sure, we have our disagreements, but our style of conflict resolution is soooo much more healthy and balanced than in any of my other relationships. With as much as I’m stressing out over other parts of my life, my life with Mr. V keeps getting better with every passing day.

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Sunday Stealing: Random Dozen Meme

07 Sep

1. When you go to Walmart, what one thing do you get every single time, besides a funky-wheeled squeaking cart full of frustration? Chocolate

2. What is something that people are currently “into” that you just don’t get or appreciate? Reality television – bleech!

3. What is something that really hoists your sail that other people might feel “ho-hum” about? I am a bit of a Facebook fanatic, especially since Mr. V introduced me to Mafia Wars. I don’t usually play games but that one is fun!

4. Favorite song to sing in the shower or car? I’m not consistent but I love to sing and do it more so in the car.

5. A really great salad must have this ingredient: Mushrooms

6. What advice in a nutshell would you give to new bloggers? Don’t blog anything you wouldn’t say out loud. I know, I know, I blog a lot of wild crap. But I would say it out loud. I would!

7. What was the alternate name that your parents almost named you? Do you wish they had chosen it instead of the one they gave you? Bronwyn Mary. I think it is beautiful but I like my name. I was ultimately named after my late Godmother and I appreciate being named after such a wonderful woman.

8. What in your life are you waiting for? This, this, this, this, this (business travel) and this

9. You get a package in the mail. What is it, and who is it from? A book from an Amazon Marketplace seller.

10. Today–what song represents you? I’d like to say “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child. But in my neurotic state it’s probably “If You Had My Love” by Jennifer Lopez

11. What is one thing that blogging has taught you about yourself? I’m a little nutty.

12. How are you going to (or how did you) choose the clothes you’re wearing today? What do they say about you in general or specifically how you’re feeling today? I had to go for a midnight dive into the pool to rescue my glasses. They fell in after an unexpected sexy afternoon skinny dip with my man. (hubba hubba) I didn’t realize they were in the pool until we were leaving for dinner so I went out to eat blind and then jumped in when I came back. Picked my clothes because they were dry and warm. It’s almost noon and I’m still wearing yoga pants and a t-shirt.

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Apartment and Life Update

17 Jun

Sorry I have been so absent lately. Illness, moving, inability to blog from work (duh) and closing on a house sale all lend themselves to a perfect storm of non-blogging.

Work has been kicking my butt the past few weeks with competing tasks all due RIGHT NOW. My boss is out of the country and called to chew my ass out for something yesterday. Then he called back 10 minutes later to repeat himself in case I didn’t get it the first time. He was wrong; I was right. Good thing the man is a few thousand miles away right now. Grrr.

Yes, I am fully moved into the new place. Not fully unpacked but getting there. And I found roommates. Yes, roommates. I was looking for one, but I ended up with a couple and their cute 7 year-old daughter. No signs of crazy so far, woot! And the wife bakes. Danger, Will Robinson!!! The man is a general contractor and the woman is an accountant. They have just moved to town and were looking for a short-term lease while he restarts his business and they sell their house out of state. It will be very handy to have him around to help with the house repairs and to do all the icky yard work I wasn’t looking forward to handling (he’s already taken that on like a champ!) Sounds crowded but so far so good. They are very laid back and nice. Their daughter and Pumpkinhead are having fun. Sure, there’s some fighting/competition but nothing the parents can’t handle. I’m also considering switching to the same daycare so I can do dropoff and they can do pickup, which would be a huge help for me.

Speaking of daycare… GRR. Chapin wanted me to use the wife of one of his coworkers. She wants $125/week (actually she wanted $150). She reports to Chapin on EVERYTHING and then I get a call. For example, as soon as I drop off, I get a call asking why I dropped him off so early/late. Or why he wasn’t wearing socks (he refused and I finally stopped fighting). Or why he was in a grouchy mood. For Pete’s Sake!!!! I’m about ready to throttle Chapin.

Closing on the house sale didn’t help. I had to take $6,100 to closing. Yep. No help from Chapin. No discount from the real estate agent who has now received THREE commissions from us in the past three years (purchase, rental and now sale). I’m totally tapped out. Argh.

On a sad note, Shirley the Cool Cat is missing. She has a new collar with her name, number and address so I’m hoping she will show up. But it’s two days and counting. I am so sad. Pumpkinhead has also started to ask for her. I am praying nothing bad has happened to her. Oh boy.

This weekend I have to go down to my parents’ house and clean up. They have been calling regularly to find out when I will be doing so. Lovely… I told them this weekend because I’m going to see Blue Eyes on Saturday morning to pick up a bed I’d given him and a washer/dryer set he said I could have (no, not weird – this all came about when I went to pick up the chainsaw and weed whacker I’d left in his garage. And he still owes me money. And we’re both in good/happy places in our lives right now so all is good.)

Speaking which, have I mentioned that I love Mr. V? Oh yeah!! I’ll love him even more if he follows through and gets me some of these. Tee-hee.

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