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Depressed

02 May

So today has been all kinds of sucky so far and now I can’t stop crying.

I’m already feeling super-fat, ugly, etc. (didn’t feel this way when pregnant with Pumpkinhead) and then Mr. V just made it worse. First he was talking about how my breasts are off limits during lactation. Then he says that if I actually make him be in the room during childbirth, the other end will also be off limits until he can “get that image out of his head.”

THEN I ask him to put my wedding dress on Craigslist. He sees the pictures for the first time and says nothing. Not “What a beautiful dress.” Not “Oh well, you wouldn’t have looked good in this anyway.” Not “Hmm.” NOTHING. Instead he tries to convince me I should sell it for peanuts even thought it is arriving at Alfred Angelo this week. Hasn’t even left the store! Surely I can get close to purchase price for it. He asks why I can’t sell it myself. Well, first, he is constantly buying and selling on Craigslist so he can monitor. Second, this is freaking hard for me! When he started working with the pictures to prepare for upload, I lost it. Starting sobbing and couldn’t stop. And he’s all like, “What’s wrong?” I called him a dumbass and went to my room. Um, I am going to look like crap on my wedding day, don’t know if I will find a dress I even like, and am honestly not sure it’s even worth the expense for a photographer when I’ll be freaking 37 weeks pregnant!

Went to lay in bed and pull myself together. Unfortunately I hadn’t had breakfast (and it was 11) so I had to get up and eat. Geez. Come back in and he’s all like, “You going to be okay? Anything I can do?” Yep, more waterworks. I’m such a hormonal mess.

Goodbye pretty dress.

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Posted in Engagement, Pregnancy

Whoops

28 Mar

So this week was surprising, to say the least….

Remember last summer when I was sick for about two months and threw a ton of money down the toilet on home pregnancy tests to be sure that wasn’t the case? Well it wasn’t and, after a scope, the doc diagnosed IBS and said to take Benefiber and a probiotic every day. I have been doing that religiously ever since.

So almost a month ago when I started vomiting at random and feeling sick pretty much all day, I presumed I was just going through a stressful period and my IBS was flaring up. Added in more fiber and finally went to the doctor last Wednesday to see if he had any tips after almost throwing up in the lobby at work (made it to the bathroom, thank God!) Since last year’s scare (when we were just using condoms), we’ve been religiously using the Ortho Evra patch. It’s supposed to be 98.6% effective. Even my doctor was convinced I had stress-induced vomiting but decided to run a test almost as I was walking out the door because I mentioned, laughing, that Mr. V was convinced I was pregnant. The doc and I laughed over that.

Until Thursday morning when his office called to give me test results. Holy shit.

So, shocked, stunned but still figuring Mr. V (who has never had a child of his own) deserved to get the news in a nice way, I left work mid-day and went home to tell him. Bought an HPT from Target and a “Daddy’s Little Princess” outfit. Peed on the stick and it INSTANTLY turned positive. When I got home, I put the stick in a ziplock and laid it with the outfit on his pillow. Needless to say, when he arrived home a few minutes later and saw it, he was just as shocked as I was. In fact, he thought I was punking him.

His mother REALLY thought we were going to call back and say April Fools. She is exceptionally concerned about the wedding, appearances, the fact that I now have a gorgeous dress I have to sell because, even though Alfred Angelo hasn’t delivered yet, it is Final, No Exchanges, No Refunds. Okay, so I’m super bummed about the wedding, too, but geez! She even sent an e-mail to her friends hoping she has their support during this rough time. Her friends came back and suggested a shotgun wedding and a reception later. Hmmph.

I did tell Mr. V that we should totally do a wedding picture with my Dad holding a fake gun to his head and me there with my pregnant belly. As for my parents, they were just happy to have a new grandchild. {unexpected reaction from them, actually!} They also said that if we want to move the wedding to August, they will deal and make it happen. They are supposed to help with some of the money and there’s the whole flying-from-Dubai thing…

Long story short (haha), because we were using birth control regularly, we have no idea how far along I am. I’m seeing the OB tomorrow morning and hope to have answers then. But best guess has me due sometime in November, which means I will be VERY pregnant on 10/10/10. I would rather move it to August but we will lose our entire deposit and have to repay to set another date. Mr. V wants to stick with 10/10/10. I warned him that pregnancies are unpredictable but, for now, I suppose we will go with that. And NOOOOO, I do not want to push it back.

So I understand that this is a blessing and I am getting happy about it but my first reaction was “Oh Shit!” I am super-busy at work, planning a wedding, etc. Don’t have time to be pregnant. Wah! But I’m adjusting. It would help 1) if I knew how far along I was and what the effect of continuing to use birth control when I had no idea may have had; 2) if I wasn’t feeling so crappy; and 3) if I had had time to prepare. I’m worried about vitamins and nutrition and hopeful that the folic acid in my vitamin was sufficient. Also hopeful that the few glasses of wine I had in the past few weeks haven’t hurt anything. Being in control (or thinking I am) is something I prefer. This has really tilted my world on its axis…

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Posted in Engagement, Health, Mommy stuff

Wedding Progress!

20 Mar

Venue secured? Check!
Dress ordered? Check! Check!
Save the Dates Mailed? Check! Check! Check!
Wedding photographer selected? Check! Check! Check! Check!

Mr. V and I are making progress. Flew up to DC a few weeks ago for work and visited my MOH while there. She got me a bridal book (who knew you needed a book?!) and since then I have been inspired to actually progress in my planning.

Mr. V is going to join me in WLS world and have gastric bypass surgery in May (my issues aside – and I’m an odd duck, really – he does need it and it’s a good thing). Today, while he still can, we’re going to go taste cake. I will probably be laying on the floor shaking after a bite or two but he’s excited to check out the flavors and Pumpkinhead can’t wait! I’ve reminded Mr. V that my intention is to go with whatever the country club offers and call it a day because neither of us will be able to eat more than the traditional bite and because I’d rather spend money on the actual food. Good meat? Yep. Great cake. Nah…

I do need to finalize bridesmaid dresses. A, if you are reading, let’s just make time and go pick ‘em. You can set the trend, girl. My bridesmaids are wearing floor-length black dresses. My MOH is wearing a claret/wine color, but she hasn’t bought the dress yet. My MOH gave me the greatest gift of a “something borrowed” in the form of a gorgeous necklace that was her mothers. Her mother passed away from breast cancer when I was pregnant with Pumpkinhead and was the most amazing woman. Both of us cried when she lent me the necklace. I can’t wait to see it with the dress!

Also need to get shoes but I have read that if I wait until June, dressy shoes will be on clearance as part of post-prom overstock. Hey, I’ll wait a while for a deal!

Now we just have to work on flowers and a DJ. Our food tasting is set up for June at the Country Club to set a menu for the wedding.

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Top 10 Reasons I Adore Mr. V

13 Feb

Mr. V(alentine) is sitting next to me on the couch rubbing my feet. Sitting here this Valentine’s weekend, happy, blessed, in love, I thought I’d expound on the reasons why he rocks.

10) He has natural parenting instincts – even though he has never had his own children, he has taken to Pumpkinhead like a duck to water and I have never, ever felt like he’s making bad choices in his parenting decisions. He helps him with home work, plays Wii, disciplines appropriately, teaches him new things, helps him to take responsibility for his actions and all without me ever having expressed a need for these things. Awesome!

9) When we fight, he listens. Sure, like every couple we have our disagreements from time-to-time. But not once have we left a disagreement still fighting. And unlike past relationships, he does not make me feel scared, intimidated or threatened. He calls me on my BS and when I call him on his, he owns it. We actually have healthy dialogues about how to solve our problems… together.

8 ) He’s a big softy. His “allergies” kick in at sappy movies, when Pumpkinhead says, “I love you, Papa {Mr. V}”, and at other cute times.

7) He’s a *man*. He loves to grill, work with his tech toys and build stuff. I love that!! He’s building me a window seat so I can cuddle up and read and he’s always thinking of great new things for the house. Reminds me of my Dad in that way.

6) He is an amazing negotiator. Mr. V owns his own graphic design business, teaches college and does a lot of real estate transactions. He rocks eBay and Craigslist finding barter deals and has improved the house tenfold since I moved in solely due to his ability to negotiate for the best possible deal and trade web design work.

5) He takes care of me. After a hard week at work, he presumes I would want to sleep in. I don’t have to mention it, ask for it, etc. He just gets up and takes care of Pumpkinhead, allowing me to get my rest.

4) He is considerate and a true partner. When he’s at the store, he calls to see if he can pick me up anything. If I ask him to drop off my drycleaning, he does it. He asks me to do things and isn’t afraid to take on an equal share. He anticipates my needs and fills them.

3) He makes me laugh. I really enjoy Mr. V’s company. We’ll be watching a show and both be thinking the same thing. He sends me funny things and his sense of humor is really similar to mine.

2) He makes me melt. He’s strong, tall, has beautiful eyes and a great smile. He holds my hand and cuddles me close when I need comfort. When people bring up his name, the grin spreads across my face and when he calls me, I’m thoroughly distracted.

1) He’s romantic. First e-mail to me said I might just be the neatest person he’d ever have the chance to meet. Flower/candy arrangement sent to me the day before he proposed said, “Happy Halloween to the sweetest piece of eye candy.” His proposal was creative and beautiful and the man wants to take dance lessons so he can dance with me on our wedding day. Swoon!!!

Bottom line – head over heels. Cannot wait until 10/10/10 to start our life together!

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180 Degrees

30 Jan

Mr. V just left the house to buy wood so he can build me a window seat where I can read. Swoon. And when he goes out, he calls to ask if he can pick something up from the store for us. And tomorrow, while I’m out wedding dress shopping, he’s taking Pumpkinhead and a friend out for lunch and a movie as a reward for Pumpkinhead’s AWESOME report card (Mr. V’s idea!). Obviously no relationship is perfect but, wow, looking back at this time last year and at earlier years’ diary/blog entries about Chapin and the way he treated me (and, yes, the way I let myself be treated), I am so thankful for my life right now and the man who is in it.

“When two people are in a relationship with both of them with their feet in, you share the common ground of each other and have each others best interests at heart. You bring out the best in each other, and are yourselves, warts and all, and you grow together rather than grow apart.” ~ Baggage Reclaim

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Posted in Dating, Engagement

Suckage

22 Dec

Today sucked on so many levels.

Started off day with a call from Chapin saying he was going to return Pumpkinhead two days early, without the bag I sent or his Nintendo, at 3 p.m. when I had a critical conference call scheduled. Nice…

Got into work and dealt with some seriously arrogant “we’re so important we have no time for you” attitude from colleagues in DC. Grrr.

Raced to a mid-day doctor’s appointment with Mr. V only to be told that an issue that is impacting us cannot be fixed easily or soon and that basically I have to wait. Have I mentioned that patience is NOT my virtue?!?!?

Walked in the door to my boss calling from his vacation to bitch me out. Spent 30 minutes on the phone with him and then had to hop on two subsequent calls, which took pretty much all afternoon. It was 7:30 p.m. before I was finished with my work (from the couch) and headed to a Chinese buffet with Mr. V and Pumpkinhead.

Then we come home and get a knock on the door. “Oh, I have a delivery for [Mr. V] but he has to sign for it.” Me, thinking it was a Christmas thing, was all happy telling him to come to the door. Um, no…. Process server delivering notice from court that he has to respond to a petition from a debt collector for a past due debt. Merry Christmas!

Good things
1) Pumpkinhead is so freaking cute, happy to be home and excited to make cookies for Santa
2) Sent my resume to a friend who has good connections in my field. Maybe she can actually hook me up?
3) I got like four books free on my early birthday present (Kindle)
4) Unlike last year when I had to convince a coworker to send out my 30th birthday party invitations and my boyfriend was like, duh, my sweet fiance has already planned dinner out with friends for my “special day.” My kind of man!

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Posted in Engagement, Mommy stuff, Women in Law

Bliss

13 Nov

Still living in happy fiancee land. Have been plotting and planning with my Maid of Honor and am excited to go see a potential reception site with Mr. V this weekend. We looked at one last weekend but I’m hopeful that the one we see this weekend will be the one. We’ll see… His Mom gave us money for a deposit on the place just in case and we have funds in reserve for our Save the Dates, so that is great.

Fortunately we are already ahead on saving money. Mr. V’s sister was married last weekend and we took advantage of her wedding photographer and decorated site to get our engagement photos taken. Can’t wait to see how they turn out!! With any luck we can get the Save the Dates sent out along with our Christmas Cards and save even more money on postage. Woot.