My mother approached me about 4 weeks ago and told me she wanted to throw me a baby shower. BUT… she wanted to do it up fancy (about $50/head for afternoon tea) so I had to SEVERELY limit the guest list. Last time I had a shower, only one person showed up. Of course this time almost everyone invited said yes so she is shelling out almost $800 between headcount, centerpieces, gifts, etc. Here’s my etiquette question. First, a shower for a third baby is a bit weird, yes, which is why my mother wanted to make it more of a fancy celebration and less about gift-giving. Clearly I couldn’t invite everyone I would have wanted to if it was a less formal gathering. So what to do when she or others (or me) post pictures of the event on Facebook. There are a few friends that I am certain will think they were snubbed to not even have received an invite. Do I explain my mom’s financial constraints? Do I leave it be? I would hate for anyone to have their feelings hurt. On the other hand, I could be thinking too highly of myself and perhaps it’s more likely people really won’t care. Help?!?!