| If you are a romantic like me, you will find Modern Single Momma’s latest post very appealing. She shares her journey to discover that you don’t have to be fully whole to be ready for love — that it is a process and part of growing together as a couple. I’m so happy for her. 
And on that note, with the hope that I don’t jinx myself by saying something, I have a date tomorrow night. 
With a man who picked me. And seems to be fairly healthy and stable. Good job. Thinks I have a lot to offer. I think he has a lot to offer. We have e-mailed back and forth for about two weeks now and had a two-hour phone call tonight. He’s taking me to dinner Wednesday night. The only potential drawback I can see on the face is that he is a smoker, which is normally a dealbreaker for me, but he is in the process of quitting and is taking medication to do so. With that said, I can take my time getting to know him while he works on that. I really enjoyed talking to him tonight. We hit it off and he seems more like me than like the kind of guys I typically pick to date. Maybe we will just end up being great friends. But maybe it will be a connection. Hard to say until I meet him in person… But I’m psyched either way.
Oh yes, smoking is an absolute deal breaker for me. It is nasty, let alone a cause of major health issues. I absolutely would not expose my child to anyone who smokes, it’s disgusting. It sends a bad message to a child, if_________smokes, why shouldn’t I. I agree with you, I would move slow and smoking must cease!
He’s using some sort of doctor-guided program to get off the cigarettes. I don’t know what it is but it’s fairly popular. Hey, whatever helps. I’m one of the most medicated people around so who am I to judge? But this is actually a good thing because it gives me time to get to know him. Because I won’t take it to the “next level” (tee-hee) unless he stops smoking. So that is actually helpful for me.
Smokers become non-smokers by stopping smoking.
More drugs don’t help addicts.
I’m an ex-smoker who quit shortly after 9/11 because it dawned on me that I had more important priorities on my life than smoking.
You’ve got to want to stop enabling yourself.
Dont’ fall for the “I’m quitting” trick — people are who they are and don’t really change (much). Addicts are all the same, all the time, forever.
Cheers!