I think God is trying to tell me something. I open up Bloglines this morning and one of the first Manslations posts in my reader is about dating as a single mom. A snippet:
LESSONS FROM COMEDY-ENJOY THE HELL GIGS
When you’re a comic, especially starting out, one thing is guaranteed. You are NOT going to be headlining any gigs that are going to resemble a Seinfeld concert anytime soon. No, no. You’ll be working in the crappiest, lousiest, most disheartening situations imaginable. It’s the worst. So, why do it?
1. EXPERIENCE: You can only get better by doing it. A lot. Even in a less than ideal situation.
2. REALITY: Nobody, and I mean NOBODY gets on Comedy Central by showing up there and refusing to play a lesser room. It might take a short time and it might take a long time. You don’t get to decide how much time. Your job is to get GOOD at it, not to get results. The good news is that nobody’s comedy story started out with, “And my first gig was an HBO special!” And nobody’s relationship story goes, “Well, I hadn’t had a date for three years, and then I met…HIM. And we were wed.” No. It’s just not how it goes.
You can read Jeff Mac’s full post on why you should get out there and have fun in the dating pool after divorce here.
I don’t know if this is for me. I’m still crying in my soup (and my car, and my tea and at my desk), but I think that’s Jeff’s point – get out and have fun. You don’t have to make a lifetime commitment so stop taking it so seriously!!! But I am definitely going to embrace the “Get out there!” message, starting with a new church for me and Pumpkinhead this Sunday where we can make new friends and get involved in our community. I’m also doing some volunteer work next weekend. I need to do things for me and for my son and make friends and see where it goes from there.



