Archive for March 7th, 2009

March 7th, 2009  Posted at   Dating, Divorce

I think God is trying to tell me something. I open up Bloglines this morning and one of the first Manslations posts in my reader is about dating as a single mom. A snippet:

LESSONS FROM COMEDY-ENJOY THE HELL GIGS

When you’re a comic, especially starting out, one thing is guaranteed. You are NOT going to be headlining any gigs that are going to resemble a Seinfeld concert anytime soon. No, no. You’ll be working in the crappiest, lousiest, most disheartening situations imaginable. It’s the worst. So, why do it?

1. EXPERIENCE: You can only get better by doing it. A lot. Even in a less than ideal situation.
2. REALITY: Nobody, and I mean NOBODY gets on Comedy Central by showing up there and refusing to play a lesser room. It might take a short time and it might take a long time. You don’t get to decide how much time. Your job is to get GOOD at it, not to get results. The good news is that nobody’s comedy story started out with, “And my first gig was an HBO special!” And nobody’s relationship story goes, “Well, I hadn’t had a date for three years, and then I met…HIM. And we were wed.” No. It’s just not how it goes.

You can read Jeff Mac’s full post on why you should get out there and have fun in the dating pool after divorce here.

I don’t know if this is for me. I’m still crying in my soup (and my car, and my tea and at my desk), but I think that’s Jeff’s point – get out and have fun. You don’t have to make a lifetime commitment so stop taking it so seriously!!! But I am definitely going to embrace the “Get out there!” message, starting with a new church for me and Pumpkinhead this Sunday where we can make new friends and get involved in our community. I’m also doing some volunteer work next weekend. I need to do things for me and for my son and make friends and see where it goes from there.

March 7th, 2009  Posted at   Single Parents

On March 24, 2008, little Madeline Elizabeth Logelin came into this world.

The next day, her mother left it.

From this impossibly tragic event, a community was born. A community of individuals, united in their desire to help and support Madeline and her father, Matt. This community formed the basis for what would become a worldwide charitable foundation:

The Liz Logelin Foundation – For the Love of Liz.

After the catastrophic loss of his wife, Matt Logelin coped by turning not only to his wonderfully supportive family and friends, but to the internet. He had already begun a casual blog to keep friends and family abreast of Liz’s pregnancy; within 2 weeks of her passing, that blog became what it is today: a place where Matt can share his joys and frustrations, challenges and heartbreaks; where concerned friends, new and old, can meet, talk, laugh, and cry with Matt; and most importantly, where other widows and widowers can offer – and be offered – support and friendship.

So strong and large was the community that spontaneously formed around Matt and Madeline, it seemed not only natural, but necessary to harness the strength of that network and turn it into something – something that could help ease the pain and lighten the load felt by widows and widowers everywhere.

Donate $7 on the 7th

By donating $7.00 to The Liz Logelin Foundation on the 7th of every month, you are helping provide financial assistance to families as they deal with the loss of their loved ones. In light of the country’s current economic crisis, $7 on the 7th is an easy, affordable way to impact the families of widows and widowers in a positive way.

The Liz Logelin Foundation was established to provide financial assistance to young widows and widowers with dependent children.

The following is a list of guidelines for the qualifications of recipients:

* Assistance is available to widows and widowers with dependent children under the age of eighteen who complete a one-time application.
* Eligibility is for a period up to one year (12 months) following the death of parent.
* Applicants must submit the following documentation in support of their applications: birth and death certificates, copies of your most recent 1040 or other tax forms showing dependency of child/children, and any other documents the Board may require. All requests for payments must be supported by appropriate and official documents.
* The amount of support given will be determined by the Foundation’s Board of Trustees.