John Gray thinks I should go out on more casual dates. I actually hear that a lot. And now that @MarsVenus is following dysfunctional me on Twitter (I’m flattered!), I suppose perhaps I should take the advice, loosen up, and go out on the occasional casual date without the expectation of lifelong commitment. Or at least read Gray’s book, Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
P.S. He also cautions against too much sex. The horror! 
To free yourself from the long list of expectations that most divorced women carry around with them in their minds and hearts, it’s important to temporarily throw that list away and see what possible male friends are out there. One way to do accomplish this is to date several men in a very close span of time. Have a dinner date on a Saturday night with one man, and have a movie date on a Sunday afternoon with another man. It’s equally important to remember that when you keep physical intimacy out of the equation it’s far less likely that you will find yourself once again getting too involved too early or bearing the pain of a newly wounded heart.
You don’t want to be heavily invested in any one relationship, and sexual activity deepens the investment you have, whether you think that to be the case or not. However having platonic dates with many men over a short span of time makes you (1) feel popular and desired and (2) keeps your emotions more resilient to the ups and downs that occur in most starting relationships.
Probably not, but it’s a good friend’s birthday and I committed to church for Pumpkinhead so I will figure out a way to do both.
), traveling on business or stuck at home with kids. So I’m taking the morning shift and then leaving around 11 to race into work in time to take my new assistant out to lunch. It’s her first day so I feel bad that I’m not there to welcome her. On the other hand, I’m trying to make sure I keep my priorities straight and family definitely comes first! Hopefully my Saturday will include a nap sometime. Pumpkinhead has a Saturday morning karate tournament so I know I won’t be sleeping in. Bummer. That said, it’s midnight and I’m hitting the hay.
