Archive for February 27th, 2009

February 27th, 2009  Posted at   Dating, Single Parents
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Amy Sue Nathan, Chicago Single Mom Examiner, shares an article today on the top ten dating tips for single moms. I thought they were incredibly sensible and wanted to share one here, which I know I found pretty hard in this past relationship

9. Leave when it’s time. One of the more trying moments in a single mother’s life is splitting up with someone her kids care about. I know women who have stayed in iffy relationships “for the kids.” This makes even less sense when you’re not married. Change and loss are part of life, things everyone has to deal with. If a particular bond is really strong, perhaps there’s a way for that adult and child to maintain a connection.

I know Pumpkinhead had really bonded with Blue Eyes. We had moved into that fairly quickly, in part because Chapin had fled the country and my Dad was in the middle of his bipolar downswing when we started dating and in part because a natural disaster had Blue Eyes staying at my house for over a week very early in our relationship (so much for waiting until it’s serious to introduce the kids). There was also the issue of his girls, both of whom I really liked a lot. And I loved his family. It is sooooo much harder to date when there are others involved. I know I’m happy to have been able to maintain a relationship with at least two of my former sister-in-laws but I also know that it comes at the price of them being less close to their brother. :( I encourage them not to take sides and I don’t talk about him with them but it’s human nature, I suppose. Anyway, this list of ten dating tips for single moms is very helpful. Which one do you think is your toughest challenge?

February 27th, 2009  Posted at   Blogging, Mommy stuff
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I arrived home at 9 p.m. tonight after a super-long day at work in which I got an awesome bonus (mostly stock, but I won’t complain, especially since after dropping 40 points in six months, it really has nowhere to go but up!) and kudos from my boss, thereby inspiring me to not only work late but bring work home. Sigh… ;)

Anyway, I had to swing by Chapin’s apartment on the way home to drop off the cell phone my parents bought him (I know :shock: Really, I know) and borrow the Big Ass Truck (no, still not fucking sold or even for sale – grrr – but I do it to myself). But he wasn’t home. :roll: I left a note on the door and hightailed it out of ghetto central. His apartment complex is a courtyard style and Friday night is apparently party night because everyone had their doors open, kids racing around and various clashing music blasting. It was lovely, really…*

When I got home, my parents were fighting as usual and Pumpkinhead was parked in front of the TV in the other room playing his Nintendo. Also lovely. :roll: So I grabbed him up for a hug and made myself a salad with some grilled chicken, flaxseed and dried cranberries, and went to the bathroom to wash up before bed. Shirley the Cool Cat followed me into the bathroom and jumped in my lap while I tried to pee. I got her down and she meowed angrily at me. Then when I got up to brush my teeth, she did this:
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I told Pumpkinhead what she had done and he said, “It’s cause you’re so cuddly, Mama. She just wants to be close to you like I do.” Awww. So now I’m warm and safe in my bed with my cute, cuddly kid and my cute, cuddly cat enjoying my salad and about to hit the hay before the weekend gets crazy. Hope you all have someone sweet to cuddle with tonight.

*Made me wonder if Chapin’s girlfriend is starting to feel like this right about now. Hahaha. (Probably not, because it’s a huge step up from where she came, but still… have I mentioned that it feels sooooooo good to not be married to him anymore?!?!) :mrgreen:


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