| Newsweek has a controversial article out discussing the religious/scriptural grounds for allowing gay marriage. I had not read the Newsweek article until today, but I loved this commentary from Susan K. Smith of an inclusive Ohio church.
From Newsweek:
Religious objections to gay marriage are rooted not in the Bible at all, then, but in custom and tradition (and, to talk turkey for a minute, a personal discomfort with gay sex that transcends theological argument). Common prayers and rituals reflect our common practice: the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer describes the participants in a marriage as “the man and the woman.” But common practice changes—and for the better, as the Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. said, “The arc of history is long, but it bends toward justice.” The Bible endorses slavery, a practice that Americans now universally consider shameful and barbaric. It recommends the death penalty for adulterers (and in Leviticus, for men who have sex with men, for that matter). It provides conceptual shelter for anti-Semites. A mature view of scriptural authority requires us, as we have in the past, to move beyond literalism. The Bible was written for a world so unlike our own, it’s impossible to apply its rules, at face value, to ours.
From Susan Smith’s commentary:
But somewhere along the line, religion decided to put itself ahead of God and the principles of God it, religion, had taught us. When that separation occurred, humans took the place of God and began to make human decisions, but attributing them to God.
And so for too long, too many people, too many groups, have been marginalized and scorned, in the name of God and in the name of the Bible, which, again, we humans seem to have “fixed up” for God.
In the fray of Biblical interpretation has been the whole subject of sexuality and marriage. Gay people have been said to be Biblically-pronounced abominations to God, and gay marriage an affront to Biblical intent.
Poppycock.
Ha! Love it. 
As much as I love my DivorceCare group and as much as I was raised in a Christian home, I have to admit that I am uncomfortable with the church/bible dictating what I should and should not do in terms of marriage, sexuality, etc. It is such a gray area and ultimately I am the one who has to stand before God. There is so much more to me than that. Anyway, the other week the video focused on God’s view of divorce (as laid out in the Bible which, I must point out, was written by man, not God). God HATES divorce, they said. And he wants you to find a way to reconcile with your spouse, divorced or not. 
Yeah, wasn’t expecting to hear that…. Now it wasn’t all bad. It did talk about the loopholes for divorce (abuse, infidelity, etc.), but said that ultimately God would prefer that you help the person get religious counseling and “recover” and then remarry or reconcile. Um, I’m thinking no. And, along those lines, I’m agreeing with these articles that this is yet another example of humans putting their spin on what they think God would want. Sure, I suppose I am, too. But ultimately, as I said, it is between me and Him/Her and no one else.
This is why I’m not religious. I just can’t bring myself to believe all this stuff, or to come up with some convoluted explanation about how it fits in with my beliefs.
Anyway, you might be okay on the sexual immorality front.
I think this all comes out of property law and is why it was included in the Bible at a time when women were traded as property of a man. They gave the following scripture as backup for this theory (can’t find the one for reconciliation, but I assume they infer it from the whole ‘adulterer’ thing):
“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” says the Lord of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” (Malachi 2:16)
God hates divorce. It is treachery to divorce one’s spouse (Malachi 2:13-16), as Jeremiah 3:20 illustrates.
“Surely, as a wife treacherously departs from her husband, so have you dealt treacherously with Me, O house of Israel,” says the Lord. (Jeremiah 3:20)
God calls it treachery and violence. Why? To begin with, it rips apart flesh.
“But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. (Mark 10:6-8)
And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery. (Matthew 19:9)
Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. (Mark 10:11-12)
Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. (Luke 16:18)
I have never heard that “God hates divorce” line. (I mean, I know marriage is sacred and all that. I’ve just never heard it put like that.) It’s strange that they would show you that in a divorce support group! It would be one thing if they were telling you, Don’t hate your spouse, try to make peace with what has happened and preserve your family, but figure it out and then remarry? Seems like an odd message.