Archive for September 9th, 2008

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Blogging

Judd at Sunday Stealing is a regular blog thief. ;) So I’m taking one back.

Sunday Stealing: The “Have You Ever” Meme

Have you ever…

1. gone on a blind date? No, unless you count online people.

2. skipped school? Yes.

3. watched someone die? Yes.

4. been on a plane? Yes.

5. been on the opposite side of your country? Yes

6. swam in the ocean? Yes

7. had your booze taken away by the cops? Not yet

8. lettered in high school sport? Snort – hell no

9. cried yourself to sleep? Yes, recently

10. played cops and robbers? Yes

11. sung karaoke? Yes

12. paid for a meal with coins only? Yes

13. done something you told yourself you wouldn’t? Oh yes… also recently

14. cheated on an exam? No

15. made prank phone calls? Yes

16. laughed until some sort of beverage came out of your nose? Yes

17. caught a snowflake on your tongue? Yes

18. written a letter to Santa Claus? Yes, for my son

19. watched the sunrise with someone you care about? Yes

20. been kissed under the misteltoe? No

21. ever been arrested? No

22. gone ice skating? No

23. been skinny dipping outdoors? Yes

24. had a nickname? Yes, I go by one every day

25. been on TV? Yes

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Uncategorized

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Uncategorized
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As mayor, Sarah Palin made the female residents of her town pay for their own rape kits. Way to support your fellow ladies in the worst moment of their lives, Sarah. I’ve been there and I can just imagine getting that bill in the mail a few days after my hospital visit. Talk about sending a girl into a dark, dark corner to hide.

“Making love is as much like rape as cooking is like being hit over the head with a cast iron frying pan.” ~ Albuquerque SANE Unit (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners)

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Uncategorized

Out there
you’ll see it all.
The floating ends
will meet and mend,
and you will be yourself;
your fully-formed,
though always changing,
self of selves.
Every clumsy backward look
will pay for itself.
Every tear you’ve cried,
or wanted to cry,
will set your broken bones.
The rips in your heart
will no longer
need to be guarded
by steel girders,
banyan trees,
or even rice paper.
Not so much as a
dragonfly’s wing
will you need
to cover the bludgeoned place,
to protect the private you
you love so much
and hope to save intact
from what has seemed years
of relentless pummeling.

Go and live and love
in peace, my friend,
for surely there is love
to enfold you,
and life to be feasted upon:
your portion is boundless.
Love will be the more
you’ve wanted.
You will know it
when you see it.
You will love yourself
as no lover
has ever had the courage
to love;
and the warmth you’ve wanted
will line your pillowcases,
dance upon your windowsill,
and hide
at the ends of your socks
awaiting your toes.

-Deborah Mears

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Uncategorized

Random Esq. has a great post on sleep quirks with some comments that had me rolling. What are your quirks (generally, not just sleep-related). Here are mine:

1) I cannot use the same washcloth twice.
2) I change my pillowcase every other day – sleep on ne side, then the other, then change. Can’t stand sleeping on dirty pillowcases.
3) I cannot sleep spooning or with pressure on any part of my body. Must sleep alone and on the left side of the bed.
4) I DETEST the sound of people chewing. Cannot eat with noisy chewers (or noisy people generally – no pencils tapping.
5) I take EVERYTHING to heart. Don’t tell me you need shelter unless you want to stay with me or a product unless you want me to buy it. I probably will. Yes, working on it…
6) I cannot be without music. Have it playing CONSTANTLY.
7) You can’t take me to a bookstore. I am dangerous and will spend my whole week’s budget without thinking twice (until I get home). Amazon is my crack.
8) I have to have whipped cream on my Skinny Cinnamon Dolce Latte. Yes, I know, it completely defeats the purpose but 2% milk makes me sick and so does sugar. Cancel those out, add a little whip and I’m a happy girl.
9) I cannot stand it when a guy comes up behind me and grabs me from behind. It freaks me out (bad experience when I was 15). I had to quit a job after this one attorney I worked for kept coming up behind my desk and leaning over/putting his hands on my shoulder to give me instructions and wouldn’t stop when I asked both him and HR. And I still can’t stand it. I’ll tolerate it but I always jump a bit at first.
10) I don’t wear white. Ever. Unless it’s forced participation in some kind of charitable event. And then I cringe the whole time.

September 9th, 2008  Posted at   Dating
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Today was a real bummer of a day. Nothing in particular happened – just a continuation of yesterday’s funk. So I called on Blue Eyes to rescue me from my funk and he produced. Took me on a long motorcycle ride to clear my head and then to a lovely romantic spot by the water to eat dinner, talk and relax. It was really lovely.

What was not so lovely was getting back to his place, changing back into my blouse (wore a t-shirt for the long ride), and kissing him for a few minutes only to have him reject my advances in favor of sleep. I know, I know, he has to save lives. He needs his sleep. My head gets it. My heart, however, feels frustrated and undesirable and takes it personally. I MUST work on this. It may just be a result of marrying a guy who was ALWAYS on to the point of abuse or dating guys before that who were young and in the mood. Maybe this is normal for men my age?

This really isn’t about Blue Eyes. I think I’m just sad and upset about men and sex generally. First stupid John Edwards cheats on his lovely wife, then David Duchovny goes off for sex addiction treatment. Every woman in my Divorce Care group has a story of being cheated on. I have to wonder if men are just wired to seek sex from multiple partners? Don’t they know that women take these things VERY personally?!? Why do they always say, “It had nothing to do with you, honey.” Ha. One woman in my group had her husband leave Chicago for my city in October. Seemingly loving husband, he called her three times a day. He had a heart attack in April and then her mother died the next day. She arrived in my city to find that he was having sex during his heart attack with a woman he’d been seeing for most of the six months who had NO IDEA he was married. WTF?!?!? She was devastated, but has stayed with him so far. She’s attending our group for support. Another woman’s husband told her flat out he didn’t love her about 20 years ago and she’s also stayed with him. He has another lover now and has for three years. My mother’s best friend had the same thing happen with her husband of 30 years. Bt he wanted an open marriage so he could keep them both!!! What the hell is wrong with men?!? How can they be wired so differently that they can detach sex from love and see it as purely physical? I just cannot comprehend it and I find myself sad, dejected and humiliated because of the man who cheated on me, the rejection of this evening and the horrible stories my group-mates have shared which lead me to wonder if all men are wired the same. So bottoms up. I’m halfway into a lovely glass of Merlot and then I am hitting the hay.