GRRRR
Chapin called tonight. He is NOT coming back from out of the country. He says he will come back eventually but not right now and, oh, btw, will I continue to make his car payment and call to cancel his flight? WTF?!? I am so pissed. So much for child support. And, yes, I have to pay the f*&*(n car payment because the car is in both of our names still. ARGH!!! But I did text him the number for his airline in the country he is in and told him to call it his damn self! He says that his mother is ill but I am 90% certain that he is full of crap, in part because of his tone and in part because my ex-SIL refuses to answer her phone. This is bullshit. He’d better get back here and help to raise his child. Damn, damn, damn. Of course Pumpkinhead is really sad now that he won’t get to go to the airport to pick up Daddy. ![]()









August 5th, 2008 at 9:12 pm
Regular reader, infrequent commenter.
Unacceptable! He cannot get out of his responsibilities as a father by conveniently avoiding you or staying out of the country. I am so sorry you have to deal with this crap.
Does your custody agreement have info re: child support payments? If so, I’d contact your attorney again to see what can be done about enforcement while C is out of the country.
Again, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this!
August 5th, 2008 at 9:51 pm
In both your names? Sell it.
August 5th, 2008 at 10:09 pm
Weird how I considered his not returning to be a possibility. Maybe getting time to get your feet under you without him around is good, though it sucks for PH. Then again, this is gonna suck for PH no matter what. Glad your folks are supportive and the new job=flexibility.
Jill has got a point about the car. Something to think about.
((Hugs))
August 5th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
Sell the car and keep the leftover cash if it remained in both of your names in the divorce, but if it was part of the settlement that he alone would assume the loan and get the car, then it’s his damn credit report. Just make sure you’re in the clear before you politely call the lender to come pick the thing up.
I can’t say this surprises me (I strongly suspected it) but I am incredibly sorry for your little boy.
I am very glad that you will not have stalking issues to deal with and I am very glad he didn’t make this decision with PH in tow.
And you may have options re support enforcement, depending on his country!
August 6th, 2008 at 9:19 am
Also, he can no longer call you and castigate you for leaving your son with your mother or that other ridiculous bull crap. Just say, “Oh yeah? YOU’RE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY!”
August 6th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Absolutely sell the car.
When is the divorce final? (Or is it, already?)
August 6th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
Divorce was final on the 21st. Just got my certified copy today in the mail.