Different Answers?
Had a little cry session with my Mom today and I think we’ve figured out some different ideas.
1. Fire nanny and put Pumpkinhead in YMCA day camp from 9 - 4:30 weekdays
2. Clear house of contents into nearby storage facility
3. Put house on market
4. Send Chapin out of the country for a month’s vacation as planned
5. Go to court July 21 to finalize divorce (date/time set with attorney today)
6. Move Pumpkinhead and I in with my parents, with pool room as our mini-kitchen/living area and a sleeping area in the house.
7. When Chapin returns, pull his furniture out of storage for his apartment.
8. Get neighborhood zoning approval to build second floor addition on poolroom to add bedrooms/bathroom upstairs and redo main floor to add in kitchen area.
9. Pumpkinhead and I would live in poolroom apartment for the next year or three until I am done with school. My parents live walking distance from elementary school. We would find a regular evening babysitter to help out one night a week when my parents are at church choir practice and Chapin would commit to 1-2 other nights/week plus Sunday afternoon/evening after church to watch Pumpkinhead.
Summer school — I spoke with the Dean and she thinks she may be able to make a case for me to get a medical withdrawal from my first class. If she can pull that (instead of the incomplete), I will be able to return my full financial aid package and will be able to put off classes until mid-August. Please, please, please!!! If not, she is going to help me switch to a class that is a bit less demanding for the last part of the summer. The professor for the class that starts next week cold calls on class members and the reading is very heavy. So I’m waiting to hear back from her tomorrow.
I hope this all works out. I really can’t take on a new house without live-in help unless I give up law school. I can put up with my parents as long as they can put up with Pumpkinhead’s rambunctiousness. Hopefully we can build the addition quickly before we drive each other crazy. ![]()









June 30th, 2008 at 8:12 pm
I like the sound of those answers! Good luck implementing everything.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:19 pm
I hope all works out for you and Pumpkinhead. Have you ever watched “The Waitress?” Just thinking you might be able to relate to the theme of a woman struggling to become independent. *hugs*
June 30th, 2008 at 8:39 pm
I’ve been keeping you in my thoughts, and even though I’m just a stranger on the interwebs, I’m definitely rooting for you! I’m glad you’ve come up with a solid plan of attack, and I hope everything that you’re waiting for works out quickly and favorably!
June 30th, 2008 at 8:43 pm
Sounds like a plan! I hope you finally catch a break and that everything works out well.
June 30th, 2008 at 9:11 pm
I am so glad that this option is available to you — and that you will get the time to recover you need (physically and emotionally — even a friendly divorce is painful), in peace, without too much drama!!
June 30th, 2008 at 9:37 pm
You are so blessed to have parents who help you problem-solve like this. Praying all works out in your favor (for a change)!
July 1st, 2008 at 6:35 am
I’ve been catching up on reading your blog … I’ve had a sick baby over here and have been M.I.A. from blogging for a while.
It sounds like you have a plan! I’m glad - I always feel much better when I get a plan even if it’s not going to be pleasant to enact. And as for living with your parents? Honey - I feel for you. Even if they’re fantastic (and it sounds like they are) it’s SUPER hard when you have a kid to live with your parents. But - it’s a plan!
Hang in there!
July 1st, 2008 at 12:43 pm
Oh, I think it will be good to be with family. You are juggling so much - and you need these shoulders to cry on!! Sounds like good ideas to me.
You’ve been in my thoughts, and I’m hoping for quick-healing for you!