http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/ Full-Time Working Mom/Part-Time Evening Law Student Sat, 06 Sep 2008 04:26:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4266 james Sun, 24 Feb 2008 19:45:02 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4266 I agree with your above comment about employers, and it is not just the legal field. Before I went to law school, I worked in a completely different field. I was upfront with my employer at one point that I was planning on leaving, which is why I had not pursued a promotion. My plans fell through, I didn't leave, so I asked for the promotion. Not only was my boss thoroughly nasty about it, (she said, "Oh, so you changed your mind? Well, put your application in, unless you CHANGE your MIND AGAIN") but it was another 9 months before I got the promotion. The employer is looking out for number one and their bottom line, you have to do the same. I agree with your above comment about employers, and it is not just the legal field. Before I went to law school, I worked in a completely different field. I was upfront with my employer at one point that I was planning on leaving, which is why I had not pursued a promotion. My plans fell through, I didn’t leave, so I asked for the promotion. Not only was my boss thoroughly nasty about it, (she said, “Oh, so you changed your mind? Well, put your application in, unless you CHANGE your MIND AGAIN”) but it was another 9 months before I got the promotion. The employer is looking out for number one and their bottom line, you have to do the same.

]]> http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4212 new duck Fri, 22 Feb 2008 02:30:08 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4212 I don't disagree with you, but I also don't feel guilty about not giving employers the full story. I was raised to believe I should be loyal to employers, only to discover that employers have no loyalty whatsoever to me. Last summer I passed up an internship that I really wanted because I had already agreed to work for another employer when I got the second offer. I felt that I would be "screwing" the first employer if I backed out of the job. Lo and behold, that first employer screwed me so badly I don't even have words for it (e-mail me and I'll tell you the whole sad story). In short, when it comes to employers, I've learned the hard way to look out for number one. Sad but true. I don’t disagree with you, but I also don’t feel guilty about not giving employers the full story. I was raised to believe I should be loyal to employers, only to discover that employers have no loyalty whatsoever to me. Last summer I passed up an internship that I really wanted because I had already agreed to work for another employer when I got the second offer. I felt that I would be “screwing” the first employer if I backed out of the job. Lo and behold, that first employer screwed me so badly I don’t even have words for it (e-mail me and I’ll tell you the whole sad story). In short, when it comes to employers, I’ve learned the hard way to look out for number one. Sad but true.

]]> http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4200 Googie Baba Thu, 21 Feb 2008 16:48:39 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/21/lessons-learned/#comment-4200 This idea is interesting. I took 16 months off to be with my son when he was born, which I still feel was a very legitimate thing to do. I had a hard time getting back into the workforce, and I was told to lie about what was going on (as if I had been in rehab). I didn't get another job until I made it look like the small amount of side work I had done was actually the reason why I didn't have a regular job. In other words, instead of being at home with my son, I lied and said I had attempted self employment. It did not make me feel good at all to do this, but I decided to play the game in order to get hired. This idea is interesting. I took 16 months off to be with my son when he was born, which I still feel was a very legitimate thing to do. I had a hard time getting back into the workforce, and I was told to lie about what was going on (as if I had been in rehab). I didn’t get another job until I made it look like the small amount of side work I had done was actually the reason why I didn’t have a regular job. In other words, instead of being at home with my son, I lied and said I had attempted self employment. It did not make me feel good at all to do this, but I decided to play the game in order to get hired.

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