Comments on: The Ultimate Betrayal http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/ Full-Time Working Mom/Part-Time Evening Law Student Sat, 30 Aug 2008 08:03:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: JC http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4474 JC Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:39:01 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4474 I'm right now in the middle of a struggle with my brother, who has had charge of my elderly father's accounts for 6 years. Of course I trusted him -- until a couple of things raised suspicion, and I got 7 years worth of back bank records and found out that all this time he's been stealing from my father, from a generous cousin who helps pay for my father's support, and from me. My own brother, the person on the planet with whom I share the most DNA. And the worst of it is that even though he's been confronted with this, he refuses to "man up" and is saying that he was only "reimbursing himself" for other expenses he paid for my father. Plus he took out a mortgage on my dad's coop, which is Dad's only asset, so if something disastrous happened, he'd be destitute because of my brother's theft. We have tried to settle this within the family, but I'm very much afraid at this point that it may require legal action. It's also completely emotionally draining. I'm devastated. I’m right now in the middle of a struggle with my brother, who has had charge of my elderly father’s accounts for 6 years. Of course I trusted him — until a couple of things raised suspicion, and I got 7 years worth of back bank records and found out that all this time he’s been stealing from my father, from a generous cousin who helps pay for my father’s support, and from me.

My own brother, the person on the planet with whom I share the most DNA.

And the worst of it is that even though he’s been confronted with this, he refuses to “man up” and is saying that he was only “reimbursing himself” for other expenses he paid for my father. Plus he took out a mortgage on my dad’s coop, which is Dad’s only asset, so if something disastrous happened, he’d be destitute because of my brother’s theft. We have tried to settle this within the family, but I’m very much afraid at this point that it may require legal action. It’s also completely emotionally draining. I’m devastated.

]]> By: new duck http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4087 new duck Sat, 16 Feb 2008 19:41:28 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4087 Why is it always the people closest to us, the ones we trust the most? I've worked with domestic violence and sex abuse cases, and it's ALWAYS the people closest to us. The media would have us believe we have to fear strangers, reality would, sadly, teach us otherwise. Why is it always the people closest to us, the ones we trust the most? I’ve worked with domestic violence and sex abuse cases, and it’s ALWAYS the people closest to us. The media would have us believe we have to fear strangers, reality would, sadly, teach us otherwise.

]]> By: Shelley http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4086 Shelley Sat, 16 Feb 2008 18:46:29 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4086 Oh, I'm so sorry to hear it. One of my brothers went through a 900-number phase, and while he was house sitting, he stole one of our credit card numbers from a receipt and ran up a tab. Fury doesn't begin to cover it -- there's the acute disappointment and hurt that go along with it. I hope your parents are able to get this taken care of quickly -- and that the family member involved gets held accountable. Oh, I’m so sorry to hear it. One of my brothers went through a 900-number phase, and while he was house sitting, he stole one of our credit card numbers from a receipt and ran up a tab. Fury doesn’t begin to cover it — there’s the acute disappointment and hurt that go along with it. I hope your parents are able to get this taken care of quickly — and that the family member involved gets held accountable.

]]> By: Lawyer's Right Hand http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4084 Lawyer's Right Hand Sat, 16 Feb 2008 17:57:59 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4084 I'm sorry your parents were put through this, and on top of their recent health issues! I’m sorry your parents were put through this, and on top of their recent health issues!

]]> By: CM http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4080 CM Sat, 16 Feb 2008 16:25:32 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2008/02/16/the-ultimate-betrayal/#comment-4080 I did a legal services clinical last year working on predatory lending cases. It's shocking how often this happens -- often, it's a relative, friend, clergy member, or other trusted person who screws you over. I did a legal services clinical last year working on predatory lending cases. It’s shocking how often this happens — often, it’s a relative, friend, clergy member, or other trusted person who screws you over.

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