Comments on: Social Mistakes http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/ Full-Time Working Mom/Part-Time Evening Law Student Sun, 27 Jul 2008 09:09:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: JT http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2668 JT Tue, 04 Dec 2007 19:45:52 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2668 1) Initial talking is only open ended questions. 2) Listening to the answers is key. 3) Keep your mouth shut after your questions. 4) Identify the most popular in the group, (i.e. the one that seems to be getting most deference, questions, looks when talking from everyone else). 5) when appropriate direct your questions/compliments/comments to them. rinse and lather and repeat! 1) Initial talking is only open ended questions. 2) Listening to the answers is key. 3) Keep your mouth shut after your questions. 4) Identify the most popular in the group, (i.e. the one that seems to be getting most deference, questions, looks when talking from everyone else). 5) when appropriate direct your questions/compliments/comments to them.

rinse and lather and repeat!

]]> By: LawyerMama http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2646 LawyerMama Mon, 03 Dec 2007 06:08:40 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2646 Oy. I do that too. I like to ask people about themselves, but I most often find myself rambling when I'm having a hard time getting someone else to talk. Meaning, I'm with another social misfit. Oy. I do that too. I like to ask people about themselves, but I most often find myself rambling when I’m having a hard time getting someone else to talk. Meaning, I’m with another social misfit.

]]> By: LL http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2643 LL Sun, 02 Dec 2007 21:08:47 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2643 I'm certainly no expert, but one thing that helps me is to try to ask questions about other people- especially if part of my brain is sending off alarms that I've been talking about me (or something that only relates to me) for too long. It's time to look someone in the eye and ask them about themselves, their work, what they think of the party/meeting, etc. And then I try to sip or snack on something to keep from jumping back in too soon. I’m certainly no expert, but one thing that helps me is to try to ask questions about other people- especially if part of my brain is sending off alarms that I’ve been talking about me (or something that only relates to me) for too long. It’s time to look someone in the eye and ask them about themselves, their work, what they think of the party/meeting, etc. And then I try to sip or snack on something to keep from jumping back in too soon.

]]> By: butterflyfish http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2640 butterflyfish Sun, 02 Dec 2007 19:16:10 +0000 http://ptlawmom.com/2007/12/02/social-mistakes/#comment-2640 um, when you figure this out, let me know. ok? :-) um, when you figure this out, let me know. ok? :-)

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